How to DO IT like a Catholic

Everything God created is good, and all evil is a perversion of something good. So, there is holy sex, and everything else is unholy sex. We live in a world of immediate gratification. Our culture wants to feast without getting fat, spend without debt, income without work, stay up all night and not be tired the next day, and... sex without children. Our culture wants to separate the procreative and the unitive aspect, and consummate a relationship before marriage only for pleasure and often the consequence is the death of an innocent life for that inability to control the momentary lustful desires. This is not a part of God’s plan. Lust allows sex to become an idol, and death of a child, the sacrifice to that idol. As counter cultural as it, we should control our lust and wait until marriage when so we do not pervert what God has given to us, as we should control pride, greed, envy, gluttony through possessions or food, wrath and sloth…the 7 soul killing sins, and we all have the ability to resurrect from them through forgives, reconciliation and reformation.            

 Have you ever wondered why many faithful Catholics have A LOT of children in today’s standards of number of children in a family? Did you know that the birth control pill allows life to be created? It does not prevent a female from getting pregnant. Life is still created, and then it is destroyed, killed, aborted, which ever word you fancy, they all mean the same. A non-abortive birth control pill does not exist. All birth control is an abortifacient. So, if a person is to be faithful and desire to follow the commandments and God’s laws including, “Though Shall not Kill” is taken seriously. We as imperfect humans have decided to argue over when a life begins, but a life is a life as soon as it is created, at the moment that God has co created with us, to make a life, and there is no question about that, and so with that knowledge, we don’t use birth control. What about other life evading techniques you ask…well, they are against God, cause a person to become objectified and and to be for used for 1 purpose only, and that leads to many issues such as of a lack of respect for each other. Using Natural Family planning methods allow a husband and wife the ability to get to know the reproductive bodies fully the way that God created them, and thus holding our bodies to a level of respect, honor and awe that is truly incredible. Like the liturgical season, there are times of abstinence and fasting and times of feasting, a time for waiting and a time for honeymooning, and this truly is the most beautiful and pure way in a marriage that keeps a husband and wife loving, respecting, honoring and continually being excited about one another. There is this love and love of life that develops and so through the love that is fostered in doing it this way, many Catholics simply avail themselves to having more trust and leave having children to God’s will, and truly honor the commandments whole heartedly to live out the faith in every way. God knows best, not us. This is how you DO IT like a Catholic! No wonder the divorce rate amongst husbands and wives practicing natural family planning is amongst the lowest. Couples that use NFP almost never divorce. Multiple studies done by the Family of Americas Foundation, studies show that couples who use NFP have a divorce rate of about 1% compared to those that don’t at about 50% There must be a link between sharing the faith, a desire to follow God’s laws, and a respect of one another that is fostered in this Natural Family Planning!    I pray we can all DO IT more like Catholics!    

 By Ingrid Bernard  

A good and fun podcast recommendation on NFP is Green Sex by Jason Everett. Also, be sure to check out all the goodness on this website: https://chastity.com